I was talking to a good friend of mine the other day and she conveyed to me a thought that I found to be very inspirational regarding my transition. I just had to ask her if I could post this on my website.
Our conversation didn't have anything to do with the struggles regarding the journey that many have traveled, including myself, to live in their correct gender. Her comment was in response to a blog about a person's emotional tendencies that we sometimes face alone, and the value of our own lives and friendships that we maintain with others.
Since I have been on this journey; I too like many others, have lost lots of friends and most of my own personal family! I have come to believe that all these losses are nothing in comparison to those who share their heart-filled love, respect, and loving support that they provide to us personally during our own personal journey, no matter what road in life we each take.
As I listened to her insight I was personally touched in my heart; and yes - I started crying. When it comes to the value of another's persons love and friendship - especially from a true friendship, I hope that those of you who read this will take it to heart and know that you are loved - even at times when you feel like you don't have a friend in the world. Her comment was:
"There's a tremendous satisfaction in knowing that your love is valued and respected by those nearest and dearest. I don't ever want a day to pass, that the people I love and share my life with are not completely aware that I love them and value their place in my life." Venus DeMila~
Venus went on to say that we should embrace ourselves for who we really are. She continued to say,
"I think we should embrace who we are, even our imperfections! Life is short, be real and be who you are, don't become a watered down version of who you are to please someone else." Venus DeMila~
I do hope that you know, Venus, that I cherish my friendship with you and know that you are a real blessing in my life... and this world is a far better place with you in it... I could not imagine a day without your love and friendship!!!!
Food for Thought: Just be you and value the friendships you have.
During my VA doctor's appointment I was assaulted by one VA employee and three other veterans because of my transition to become a female.
Food for Thought: When will the hate crimes stop?
I called my credit card company to find out what my balance is. As the computer generated voice was instructing me through the steps, it said. "Please enter your credit card number one digit at a time."
Food for Thought: This begs the questions, How many people using this company enters their credit card number several digits at the same time?
"Stick to your guns if you believe in something no matter what cause it's better to be hated for who you are than beloved for who your not." Johnny Van Zant
Food for Thought: Since I came out about a year ago, I noticed that my so-call friends have rejected me for who I really am, but was loved for somebody I wasn't... kinda ironic isn't it?
"The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not Protect You." Marlene Lauderdale
Food for Thought: My wife really has some great sayings. I believe this to be true that God will always protect me no matter where He may lead me. I believe God is really walking beside me during my transition and for the rest of my life. May God bless you in your journey.
A co-worker of mine approached me to ask about my transition and all the changes I am going through. She told me she watched a TV commercial about erectile dysfunction, and she asked me "Are you concerned about erectile dysfunction?"
Food for Thought: I'm planning on having it surgically removed - not about dysfunctions!!! I had to walk away to keep from laughing at her! Note to self: Buy water-proof mascara!